It’s a rarity that Celeste says “I love you.” She had her ways of thinking that there were many ways we say, I love you. But she did love her friend Geraldy, dearly. In fact, Geraldy was Celeste’s first true friend. Throughout Celeste’s years, people she loved, left her. She didn’t make a big deal about it, nor did she hold any grudges. She learned at an early age, just to go with the flow of things, because it was easier to accept, then harboring negative vibes against the person. Never did she throw out “I love you” in a flamboyant way, when she said the words, she meant it!
To her the different ways we express our words, are different than our body language when we think of love. Celeste believe’s that the origins in the brain to the thrilling havoc it creates in our bodies and behavior, is something to think about. Like when you fall in love, specific areas of the brain “light up” with increased blood flow. Giving us a romantic passion that is hardwired into our brains by millions of years of evolution. It is not an emotion; it is a drive as powerful as hunger. She will argue convincingly, that we love neither by chance nor by accident.
15 Different Kinds of Love, Celeste believes we experience in our lifetime:
Romantic Love- An abiding love for a partner with whom you feel passion, attraction, caring and respect.
Infatuation- loving feelings towards a love object that are largely based upon fantasy and idealization (instead of experience). Often when partners get to know each other, infatuation diminishes.
Eros- a passionate love usually involving sexual feelings for a love interest.
Companionate Love- feelings of warmth towards a friend with whom you love to spend time
Unconditional Love- A type of affection and caring that is so strong that you feel it consistently, regardless of what that other person does
Conditional Love- A love that requires specific action or conditions in order to be maintained. For example, at its extreme, a parent who gives very conditional love would only love his child when he gets straight A’s, becomes a surgeon and has two children. The love is based on outside conditions and when they do not occur, the love is withdrawn.
Puppy Love- A childish, innocent temporary crush on someone that you don’t know well.
Maternal Love- This term usually connotes love that is nurturing, accepting and protective. In actuality this love can also be given by a father etc.
Paternal Love- This term connotes love that involves guidance and some authority. Paternal love usually prepares a child to be ready for the outside world. Again, in reality this type of love is not gender specific.
Soulmate Love- This type of love is described as a love that has survived multiple life times. Not everyone believes in this concept.
Spiritual/Divine Love- This type of love recognizes the Divine light in everyone and everything. Love is given to everyone as an act of loving God.
Love of your country or patriotism- This is love for the place you live or the place that were born. It is a type of loyalty and a special feeling of belonging that you attribute to that specific geographic location.
Self-Love- This is a positive feeling that you have about who you are and what you deserve. It often is expressed by treating yourself well, respecting yourself, wanting yourself to be happy and expecting others to respect you too.
Brotherly Love- This term connotes having a feeling of love for your neighbor, because all humanity is considered to be part of a larger family of human beings.
Tough Love- This term is used to describe a love that is expressed by setting boundaries for the good of the other person. So for example, a parent may send their teenager to rehab if he is drug addicted, even if he does not want to go. They feel that this is an act of love because it stems from a desire for their son’s ultimate good and happiness.
I am sure there is more kinds of love out there in our wild world, so if you know of any, please comment, and I thank you for your input!
What kind of love have you experienced?